"Know what you want to do, hold the thought firmly, and do every day what should be done, and every sunset will see you that much nearer the goal."

Give to yourself the highest of expectations. And all the while, be patient with yourself as well.

Know for certain that you are surely born to do great things. And know also that real value takes time and patience to fully develop.


You are always a work in progress. On some days you will make a little more progress than usual, and on other days a little less.
Yet every day has its purpose and its own special value.

Even when, by all outward appearances, you are falling behind, on a deeper level you are always moving forward.

For every experience, whatever it may be, brings its own richness to your life. Learn to see that richness, to accept it, to make use of it, and you will find your most treasured dreams coming to life.

Be eager to make the effort, and patient about seeing the results. Something in each and every day will move you forward.

I was just wondering what to write....i'm not feeling like writing for quite some time but still i want to post something here!! So came this post. This just consists of a few of my favorite messages sent by this wonderful person called Rajesh(There are many ofcourse, but i'm writng here only a few)!! From the day i gave him my number, i have recieved many beautiful messages which made my days much brighter and brought a smile over my face....Thanks a lot Rajesh for ur msgs and hope i'll continue to get them. I just wonder many of times, how come u get so many ideas....u write almost about everything.

1) Teri yari tere wafa hai kafi he, tamam umar ye aasra hai kafi

he, jaha kahi bi milo bus muskura dena, meri khushi keliye teri

muskan hi kafi hai.


2) Be a poet when u r alone, Be a king when u command, be a

scientist when u work, be a lover when u see hearts and be my

lovable friend until i live!!

3) apne dil ki suno, jazbat se kam na lo, mujhe yaad rakho,

beshak mera naam na lo, aapkaa vahem hai k hum bhul gaye apko,

aesha soch ke meri dosthi kaa imtihan na lo.

4) Friend in diffferent languages:
Iranian: Dost,
german: freund,
hebrew: chaver,
french - ami,
pinoy - kaibigan,
dutch - vrend,
mexican - amigo,
for me - just u!!

5) feeling of tense?
thnk of me
feeling sad?
call me
feeling lonely?
see me
feeling sleepy?
dream of me

My name is self confidence!!
Never lose me!!

6) philosophy of love and life:
if u r not in love, u r missing something in life!!
if u r in love, u r missing everything else in life!!

7) a bond of love, a medal of trust, a shoulder in sadness, a

hand in darkness, a special relation to hold, an ear where

secrets can be told....is magic called friendship.

8) when god solves ur problem, u have faith in his abilities,

when he doesn't solve ur problems, it means he has faith in ur

abilities!!!

9) in times of trouble, dont say: "hey friend, i have a big

problem". say: "hey problem, have a big friend".

10) i hate u.












hate means:
h - happy to see u
a - always miss u
t - take u as my best friend
e - every day remember u

11) Imagine a running race between love and frinedship....who

will win:??
answer:NONE
you knoww why??
because friendship always compromises and Love always

sacrifices.

12) if a cat crosses u when u're going some where, it means...

?
?
?
?

That..the cat is also going somewhere!!

13) Most inspirational sentence: A ship is laways safe at shore.

But it is notbuilt for that!!

14) Always be reason of someone's happiness, never be just a

part of it. Be a part of someone's sadness but never be the

reason for it.

15) EYES - express real feelings more tan words!
TOUCH - shows more care than any words!
but WORDS - when used properly can catch the eyes and touch the

heart.

16) Tired of many greetings that come such as Hi, Hello, GM, Gd

evng, Hv a nice day, take care......so on???

Here's my simple refreshing line: Can u smile for me?? (Ultimate one)

Hai Friends, it's been a really long infact a very long time i wrote something here. I got very much held up with so many things. Even though i was longing to come here and leave my mark, i was unable to do so!!

Any way it's a great pleasure to come here now atleast. I'm feeling very happy now as much as when i visit my native place!!! Really there is something here!! Now i realised why Rajesh is so passionate of this iland!!

There is nothing much to write now....it's just a visit to say Hi to all my friends!!

This one is quite interesting and really gives us an insight into DECISION MAKING.

A group of children were playing near two railway tracks, one still in use while the other disused. Only one child played on the disused track, the  rest on the operational track. The train came, and you were just beside the track interchange. You could make the train change its course to the disused track and saved most of the kids.  

However, that would also mean the lone child playing by the disused track would be sacrificed. Or would you rather let the train go its way?    

Let's take a pause to think what kind of decision we could make................

Most people might choose to divert the course of the train, and sacrifice only one child. You might think the same way, I guess. Exactly, I thought the same way initially because to save most of the children at the expense of only one child was rational decision most people would make, morally and emotionally. But, have you ever thought that the child choosing to play on the disused track had in fact made the right decision to play at a safe place?

Nevertheless, he had to be sacrificed because of his ignorant friends who chose to play where the danger was. This kind of dilemma happens around us everyday. In the office, community, in politics and especially in a democratic society, the minority is often sacrificed for the interest of the majority, no matter how foolish or ignorant the majority are, and how farsighted and knowledgeable the minority are. The child who chose not to play with the rest on the operational track was sidelined. And in the case he was sacrificed, no one would shed a tear for him.

The friend who forwarded me the story said he would not try to change the course of the train because he believed that the kids playing on the operational track should have known very well that track was still in use,  and that they should have run away if they heard the train's sirens. If the train was diverted, that lone child would definitely die because he never thought the train could come over to that track! Moreover, that track was not in use probably because it was not safe. If the train was diverted to the track, we could put the lives of all passengers on board at stake! And in your attempt to save a few kids by sacrificing one child, you might end up sacrificing hundreds of people to save these few kids. While we are all aware that life is full of tough decisions that need to be   made, we may not realize that hasty decisions may not always be the right one.

"Remember that what's right isn't always popular...    and what's popular isn't always right."  

Everybody makes mistakes; that's why they put erasers on pencils.  

Today, i got a dream..............its not that i wont get dreams daily!! But its something special......special not because it has anything to do with V day. Even though the dream was big and i cant recollect it fully, one thing just remained fresh even after i got up from my bed. I got one special person in my dream...i dont remember whether i used to get scared or not in my childhood if i see any devils in my dreams...but this fellow has got more influence on me. This fellow is not leaving me even in my dreams, not just in office and my room. He has got a special niche to irritate me to the core!! If any one asks me for the definition of cunningness or jealousy or domineering, I'll just show him. He is just a manifestation of all these three great qualities. I'll reserve explaining about his special abilities rather to some other post...this blog is not intended for that.

There is nothing unusual then for me to get highly irritated because i didn't know that it was just a dream when i was dreaming. When i'm about to get irritated and lose my temper, exactly at that time something magical has happened. I just got a revelation that it's just my decision whether to lose my temper or not and at that moment i decided not to get angry. Why should i get angry because of foolishness of someone else?? I know how bad i feel whenever i get angry......it really hurts a lot and a lot!! Some times i feel fully tired and exhausted after such episodes of anger....then why should i waste so much of my energy for useless things. Others have done some foolish or some selfish acts or something which hurts me....it doesn't mean that i should hurt myself more as an act of reciprocation. Then suddenly i decided, yes i'm not going to get angry this time. I was really peaceful, i was more awakened and more aware of my emotions....i could just see the transition between the two states. There was just a narrow line between ourself having control over ourself and our emotions and getting affected by emotions. When in transition we have more freedom as to which side we want to move or keep ourself. But once we cross that border line and enter into the state of emotion, we may really have little left for our control and we just can hope to come to normal just at the mercy of emotion or we need to spend very high amount of energy to cross that barriers of transition to come to normal state. I just felt like i have got more control over my anger and other emotions. I just don't know how much really it can be kept in practice, but i'll surely try for that atleast

She called me yesterday.....we were talking after a long time or rather i can say, i felt so. There was a time when we used to feel it's too long if we dont talk for two days but the times have changed. This time it is surely more than four days, not just two or three days, so i thought nothing wrong in feeling it's been too long.

After talking for some time, she praised me that it's been long time that i have irritated her with my words. Ohh thatts good!! But then, suddenly i realised it may not be because i'm growing wiser but rather because i'm not getting enough time now a days..so i thought there is no need to pat my back on this issue.

I also told her that i made a resolution this time not to irritate her or any one else this time when i'm going there. It used to be common that i go there only once in a while and even then the time just melts off with our fights and complaints only and we realise our stupidity only when it's the timefor me to start from there. Then we realise that we could have spent that time more wisely rather than with stupid fights. I'll go there exclusively to spend quality time with them but foolishy waste the time what i have in complaining about the time which i dont have. Last time only i decided very strongly that i'm not going to repeat this. It's not the first time i decided. Every time i make that decision and every time i forget it, but this time it's strong decision, not just decision.

I could sense there is some change in me. I'm not as excited as before with the thought of going there. The excitement and count down used to start from the time one month before my journey date. But this time, not even one week is there, but still i could not sense any trace of excitement in me. Is this change in me because of my previous experience of unmet expectations or is it because of my decision to not keep much expectations (so that there will not be any disappointments) or is it because the purpose of this visit is somewhat different from earlier visits or is it because i am slowly forgetting the joy in beng non senical or is it because i'm trying to restrict my freedom of being nonsensical in the guise of growing wiser?!?

You're never alone, I'm always near,
When you r troubled, down or blue.
All you have to do is call me,
I'm always here for you.
It doesn't matter where I'm at,
It doesn't matter when.
When you need someone to talk to,
I'm here to be your friend.
If you need someone to hold your hand,
Or a hug to say I care.
If you need a shoulder to cry on,
For you I will be there.
So never think you are a burden,
When the weight gets to be to much.
You might find if look hard enough,
A good friend could be the right touch.
You're never alone, I'm always here,
Through the good times and the bad.
I'm always here to be your friend,
I don't like to see you sad.






(Source: e-mail froma friend!!!)

Source: e-mail from a friend !!

WIFE VS. HUSBAND

A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word.

An earlier discussion had led to an argument and

neither of them wanted to concede their position.

As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,

the husband asked sarcastically, "Relatives of yours?"

"Yep," the wife replied, "in-laws."



W O R D S

A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day...

30,000 to a man's 15,000.

The wife replied, "The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men...

The husband then turned to his wife and asked, "What?"


CREATION

A man said to his wife one day, "I don't know how you can be

so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.

" The wife responded, "Allow me to explain.

God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me;

God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!



WHO DOES WHAT

A man and his wife were having an argument about who

should brew the coffee each morning.

The wife said, "You should do it, because you get up first,

and then we don't have to wait as long
to get our coffee."

The husband said, " You are in charge of cooking around here and

you should do it, because that is your job, and I can just wait for my coffee."

Wife replies, "No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the Bible

that the man should do the coffee."

Husband replies, "I can't believe that, show me."

So she fetched the Bible, and opened the New Testament

and showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says.........."HEBREWS"




The Silent Treatment

A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each

other the silent treatment. Suddenly, the man realized that the next day,

he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight.

Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper,

"Please wake me at 5:00 AM ." He left it where he knew she would find it.

The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM

and he had missed his flight. Furious, he was about to go and

see why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by

the bed. The paper said, "It is 5:00 AM . Wake up."

Men are not equipped for these kinds of contests.



God may have created man before woman,


but there is
always a rough draft before the masterpiece.

Source: e-mail froma friend!!

Mom comes to visit her son Kumar for dinner...who
lives with a girl
roommate
Sunita.

During the course of the meal, his mother couldn't help but notice how pretty
Kumar's, roommate was. She had long been suspicious of a relationship between
the two, and this had only made her more curious.
Over the course of the evening, while watching the two interact,she started to
wonder if there was more between Kumar and his roommate than met the eye.

Reading his mom's thoughts, Kumar volunteered, "I know what you must be
thinking, but I assure you, Sunita and I are just roommates."

About a week later, Sunita came to Kumar saying, "Ever since your mother came to
dinner, I've been unable to find the silver chutney jar.
You don't suppose she took it, do you? "Well, I doubt it, but I'll email her,
just to be sure."
So he sat down and wrote :
Dear Mother, I'm not saying that you 'did' take the chutney jar from my house,
I'm not saying that you 'did not' take the chutney jar.
But the fact remains that it has been missing ever since you were here for
dinner.

Love,

Kumar




Several days later, Kumar received an email from his Mother which read :
Dear Son,
I'm not saying that you 'do' sleep with Sunita, and
I'm not saying that you
'do not' sleep with Sunita.
But the fact remains that if she was sleeping in her OWN bed, she would have
found the chutney jar by now.

Love,

Mom.

At last the judgement has come for the long awaited case. It’s good to see that the criminals are getting a capital punishment in India as well. But is this really enough?? The judgement has come after a whopping long time of 11 years after the crime that too because of the loud public outcry. Other wise it’d have easily extended for a few more years. There could be many such cases and many of them are easily getting acquitted out of their crimes. There is also a possibility of the Santhosh singh appealing for the higher court and we don’t know what will happen after that.

There are many people who are very happy with the judgement, I guess. There will also be some people who may cry against this judgement as inhuman. They will talk about the giving opportunity for the criminal to get rehabilitated. Every one has got the right to have their opinion.

The same way, even I have my opinion. I strongly feel the punishment is not enough. If the purpose is to send the shivers across the spines of the other potential criminals, the punishment should be much stronger. It should be in lines of the punishment given by the Arab countries or more barbaric than that. The punished should feel that death is much better. It’s not that I’m in support of giving brutal punishments, but I only feel that it should be able to serve some purpose atleast. Anyway it can’t get back the life and dignity of Priyadarshini mattoo. So atleast it should be able to spread a sense of fear amongst those having such intentions.

It has become a norm for the public to make a hue and cry whenever such incidents come to limelight by the media. But there could be many such cases. What about them?? All the victims can’t go to courts to get the justice. Even if they go to court, there is no guarantee that they will get justice. Even if they get the justice, what can they do with that? They can’t get back their life or their happiness or their dignity or whatever it is that they have lost. So it is the time we should think about preventing such crimes to happen rather than thinking about what type of punishments should be given to the convicted.

These punishments and all such things just try to repress the evil desires and impulses by means of fear factor. But it’s just a repression and not the removal. And these repressed impulses will surely come out whenever the conditions are suitable. If we want to have a healthy society, we need the individuals free from these thoughts and impulses and not those carrying time bombs which no one knows when they will explode. So we need to think now, how this can be achieved!!

I have given a talk similar to this in my class some time back. I stressed the need for the right education and as I expected, I had to face a lot of criticism from my professor (he being the hard core communist and communists by nature oppose the change and new things). I strongly feel education is one of the greatest medium from where we can build the society (even in fact nations). Making or breaking of nation can depend on the quality of education that can be provided to its citizens. We are not able to use the potential of education at all. Our education teaches us so many things which we never use in our life and it won’t teach us many of the things which we really need to lead a healthy life. Our education system is just trying to build some mugging machines out of the most powerful brains. If used properly, it can be made to build the super humans, the humans who know how to live, the humans how to treat and empathize with others, who knows what they want in their life and how to go about them with the win-win situations, who knows how to build the society and how to build the nation.

My professor said, ”see, its not yet possible to give education (the conventional) to everyone in our country and u r talking about right education….just forget it ”. My argument was just to change the education system; whatever education u r giving, give it the right one. I’m not suggesting more quantity. I’m just talking about quality and it doesn’t need any more efforts at all. All that is required is right efforts and right intentions!!

Friends, what do u people think? Do u see more logic in what I say or in what my professor said??